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Training myself – through reflection and taking stock

2, February, 2008

Well, into the second month of 2008 already, and what have I done so far? Alot! I have been kept busy, with only a little breathing space here and there. In fact, so well-kept that I have forgotten about this thing called reflection. It is the essence of self-reflection that enhances one’s life skills. It is in self-reflection that you become better in that which you reflect on. I call it self-training.So, just this afternoon, experiencing a dry spell, when I could no longer push on… my mind simply refused to focus, I decided to just sit still, and ‘listen’, really ‘listen’ to whatever that’s happening around me. And then I realised that I needed this time to simply reflect. As in Peter Senge’s five principles of Personal Mastery – forging a personal vision, pushing on in creative tension, realising your structural conflict, commitment to the truth and using your subconscious – using your subconscious is essentiality the perspective of self-reflection and stock-taking.

You see, when you use your subconscious, you are allowing yourself time to sit back, and think through what you have done so far – whether in specifics (particular to situations or events that have happened) , or generally (as in what’s happening to your life or what you have done in recent times). As you reflect, you begin to either justify or rationalise things that you did right or wrong. You should also stop rationalising and justifying, and objectively seek to know what have gone wrong (or not appropriately done), and how they may be done better the next time you have another opportunity to work at it similar things. In so doing, you are allowing yourself to become better.

As for me, allowing myself to sit back and ‘listen’ to my five-year old boy playing with his ‘hot-wheel’ racing cars, and the military toy vehicle helped me to see the light-hearted, carefree lifestyle in him. Yap, that should be how his life should be right now – having fun. I wish to have that too… :). I also had the opportunity to ‘listen’ to my daughter de-stressing herself, in front of the piano. She played Jay Chou’s tune quite nicely, and I must say I like it. As I also de-stressed with ‘listening’ to them, I began to realise that this simple activity brought back life to me. Life is not just work. We must allow our mind to relax, to think things through; to reflect on relationships – friends and loved one whom we have conflicts with, and seek to find out how we could ‘mend’ those conflicts.

By the way, listening to her playing it also brings out another principle of ‘using your subconscious’. When she first played a tune, she felt awkward because she was unfamiliar with it. As she pushed herself and practiced it many more times, she became better and better at it, until it became a ‘part of her’. The conscious effort in the beginning (of playing the tune right) has become a subconsious control (a state of the subconscious taking over). What happens from hereon, to become even better, is progressing with added emotional element in playing the tune.

Well, that’s it – Peter Senge’s principle of Personal Mastery – on Using Your Subconscious. Readers, life skills development begins here, and goes on from here; it does not end…till our last breath, on earth…:). As for me, i have the opportunity to rest, take stock and move on… as in penning down my thoughts here. Adieu…


Hello, to my readers…

10, August, 2007

John, the adult trainer

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Hi, my greetings to all who have been coming back to check for the latest, or to you who have just chanced upon it. I hope you have enjoyed the write-ups so far. By all means, use the analogies, stories or real life experiences that I have here if you happen to be training, teaching or presenting on related topics / lessons. As a trainer, I love to impart my knowledge and skills… yea! But I must qualify that I still have alot to learn, and I wait to learn from many of you who are reading my stuffs here.

I have included another category – Quotable Quotes. These are my own quotes, which came about each time I ponder on related issues.

The trainer speaks…

3, July, 2007

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How do you like a trainer who is able to entertain you with his charisma as well as with lots of stories, analogies, life experiences and anaedotes? I’m sure you’ll love it. And that is what engaging the adult learners mean when it comes to training or coaching. Whether it is about life skills or customer service excellence training, it’s not just imparting the knowledge and skills that you find in books. It’s not just about having one activity after another. Sure, you need those. But a really good trainer or presenter will tell you that helping the adults learn well and remember better really means quoting alot of instances, experiences, analogies… etc.

I believe that training can become more effective and our participants can remember better what we have imparted when we inject lots of life experiences, make full use of illustrations, analogies and stories. Whether it’s our or others’ experiences, as long as we are able to relate them with the right dose of zeal and passion (and it must be genuine, of course!), our participants will be with us.

In this site, I attempt to highlight some interesting analogies as well as share my and others’ experiences in life skills and customer service-related issues. In a nutshell, this site is all about Life Skills (or lifeskills, as some may call it) Training, Customer Service Training and Training Using Analogies and Stories. If you find this site a little lack in content, I beg your pardon… please bear with me, as this site is a part-time hobby of mine. I update it whenever I am able to.

I will be most glad if you find this site useful and would like to link it to your site so that your fellow visitors could gain from it. Here’s the HTML code –

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Have fun… reading my thoughts…:)